August 1, 2008
Random Act of Feminism for August: semantics
Most of my Random Acts have been about language. I think there’s a reason for this. Language is subtle and pervasive. It carries around loads of gendered assumptions within it, yet seems to be innocuous–ya know, just semantics.
For August, I want to tackle referring to a sexual partner/sexual interest as an object, a thing.
“I’d like to hit that.” (a woman–or man–is not a “that.” And conflating sex with hitting is also not cool)
“I’d do her.” (sex is not something you do to someone.)
“I’d like to tap that –.” (women’s orifices are not kegs, contrary to much advertising.)
“I got some of that.” etc.
No further commentary on my part needed.